I been thinking about how some relationships fail and how doing the thing you think will keep someone in your life often backfires and produces the opposite effect of the one you wanted. As I thought I wrote and it became what is written below:
You cannot force people to love you, to like you, to think like you do, to miss you, to care about you, to have the same feelings for you as you may have for them, or return to you.
People need to be free and the more you hold on while they are struggling to be free the longer they will stay away when they do, eventually, break away.
You can loosen your grip, love them without sufficating them, give them the freedom to think for themselves,to stop pinning away for what will never be,to care for yourself,to not demand they feel the same way, and to get on with your own life.
Sorry, no other way to have peace.
Controlling behaviors do not come off as loving to those being controlled.
They are not singing you the song of the martyrs.
Life is not easy, it is not always fair, but you either learn or you keep repeating the same mistakes…